Monday, January 16, 2012

Marriages are made in heaven 2

With advanced age, I guess I am gaining a better insight in this subject. I really dont wish to do Phd in this topic but the current situaton has made me think deeper into it and the subject is as important as the selection of a field for post-grad.
Marriage - a union of two families rather than just two beings who decide to lead their remaining life together. I highlight two families since the object of interest of my post is a traditional Indian arranged marriage - which is my preference . These families have a big part to play , especially in a girl's life after marriage.
In my last post over the same subject and in the next post "to my anonymous friend", I tried pointing out the extreme expectations of the perspective brides , grooms and their families . Why dont people try to keep it simple when it comes to expectations? Rather than searching for a rich n handsome dude , I guess it is much preferrable to go for a simple, intelligent, sincere person who cares for his family. After all , riches might be lost , looks are temporary, what lasts is the intelligence and a beautiful mind. I prefer to give weightage to the wisdom inherited by a guy from his parents. Dont family values play a big role in our lifestyles? Whom should I prefer - a mama's boy who likes to "eat ghar ka khana" or a party person ? - Definately the first one is my choice .
A person who finds joys in small things, just like me, is what I prefer. The person who loves the fragrance of the first rain; one who wont mind yet another cup of coffee on lazy sundays in June , loves gazing aimlessly in the lush green woods, one who appreciates the sound of a drizzle, loves the gleaming sunshine over an active rivulet- would possibly understand me better.One who appreciates the rainbow as if he is still 8 even at 40 ! One who wont mind my likes for something like smell of fresh paint in the house !
Above all an honest person with sound morals and a positive approach towards life is what i am hoping for ! I dont mind settling in any corner of the world with a beautiful mind ! The topic is huge and not all points have been possibly disussed . I guess understanding and patience would be handy in the whole marriage and even in making marriage work issue in future. Life really becomes easy when you learn to accept things as they are. Inthe end, its not important to get the best mate , its about giving your best and getting the best outcome with the combined efforts of two different minds bound together by one thing - "Marriage"

back after a long pause......

Two years back , a lady graduated from a medical college- set free in the world of endless opportunities.She used to dream, she used to write and shared it all on this blog. She had a say in every aspect of life and her outlook was no different from any educated girl at 25. Then there was a break in her blogging- a loong pause of 2 years . But , meanwhile her pen wasnt a stranger to her diaries. She hardly stopped missing her blogger mates and decided to return back from the long silence.
In those two years some things had changed. The young doctor had seen life outside the university, her mind was getting enriched. She had left India at a tender age of 18. At 25, when back in India, she was facing the people with a new insight ; understood the advancing society in a better way.
She is in the process of undertanding relationships and human minds with a deeper perspective . The wheel of time hasnt ever stopped spinning, this young bird has now got stronger wings to dive in the sea of thoughts and she is able to express in a clearer way .
So here I am, the doctor in the picture, your hostess at this destination- welcoming you back and so glad to be back herself!
I hope to get the same response and suggestions for improvement as before.